Jan 24, 2008

heart of the matter

I just finished catching up on my friend Melinda's blog. After reading her post titledDouble Non Fat Irish Cream Latte I found myself thinking about all of the people I know who have lost someone lately that they had come to love, and count on to be around. It seems there is not much we can do to prepare for or prevent the loss of someone we have come to so utterly depend upon. Whether it is death or something else that removes us from those we have become attached loss is never an easy process.

It is amazing to me how quickly I become attached to those around me, even after times of great heartbreak when I swore never again to allow myself to become so attached I find myself still surrounded by those I love. The thought of ever having to go through the immense sadness if anyone of these souls and I should have to part is heart wrenching.

So I am left to wonder how do we continue to give ourselves fully to those we love with the knowledge that we will at some point be left without them. I don't mean this to be a depressing post, just an honest look at the heart that hurts for those who are in the midst of this sort of painful loss. My sympathy.

I guess love it all boils down to the fact that love requires risk and that means if we are going to love we are going to risk the pain of that love being taken from us.

"It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" - though trite, really seems to be the answer here.

1 comment:

Jennifer said...

I too have wondered what I would do if I lost the people closest to me. Unfortunately in my chosen path of military spouse, loss comes all too frequently. While I am lucky (and grateful) to still have my hubby with me, we have lost a lot of friends and mentors along the way. I know a couple of extremely brave women who are forging ahead after great loss, and I can only hope that should I ever be in their situation, I would show the same amount of strength and dignity that they have shown. I think it's impossible to imagine dealing with something like if it hasn't happened, but if it does, then God gives us the strength and grace to get through it.

quotes i love

  • "they will never care how much you know until they know how much you care."
  • "never be afraid to trust a well known God with an unknown future." - Corrie Ten Boom
  • "God doesn't need you, He loves you, that is much better."
  • "the world has yet to see what God can do through a man/woman who is totally commited to him." - D.L. Moody
  • "be who you is, cause if is ain't who you is, you is who you ain't."-
  • "some people say movies should be more like real life. I say real life should be more like the movies."